New from the authors of The 80/80 Marriage
A relationship book for people who are too busy for relationship books.
Design your own system for shifting from the blur of busyness back into love and connection with your partner.
Coming Valentine’s Day 2027
Relationship Tools.
Design Your Own System for Love.
- SPACE: Break the cycle of busyness and create more space for love4 tools
- SELF: Do the inner work to become the partner you want to be4 tools
- US: Turn everyday moments into opportunities for deeper connection4 tools
- MONEY: Approach money as a team instead of allowing it to create conflict4 tools
- LOGISTICS: Streamline the logistics of running a life together4 tools
- OTHERS: Stop friends, family, and work from interfering in your relationship4 tools
- THE WORLD: Stay connected in a world of constant distraction and crisis3 tools
About the book
A new operating system for love, built for the modern couple.
- work stuff
- pack kids' lunches
- reply to group chat
- clean the kitchen
- “quick” scroll
- date night??
- us ← always last. why?
Life is busy. By the time you're done with work, packing the kids' lunches, responding to the group chat, cleaning the kitchen, and scrolling for longer than you meant to, there's no time left for love.
You stop checking in with your partner, date nights fall off the calendar, and everything else somehow takes priority over your relationship.
In Busy Love, authors and relationship coaches Kaley and Nate Klemp offer a new solution to the relationship challenge of our time: staying connected in a time of constant busyness.
Busy Love offers a seven-step guide for shifting from Love by Accident, where you allow random chance and the mess of everyday life to shape your relationship, to Love by Design, where you get to create the life and relationship you most want.
Early praise
We protect our meetings, deadlines, and our kids' calendars. But too often we leave our relationship to fend for itself. Kaley and Nate Klemp give busy couples the tools for staying connected in an increasingly chaotic world.
“Busy Love is an entertaining guide filled with practical tools to help couples deepen intimacy, rekindle attraction, and reconnect, even when life gets busy. Every modern couple can benefit from this roadmap.”
“Kaley and Nate Klemp have written the relationship book for our busy times. Rich in story and packed with practical insights, the book is designed for people with full lives who also want fulfillment in love. It's also gracefully written, always a pleasure (especially if you're in a hurry!).”
“In Busy Love, relationship experts Kaley and Nate Klemp provide an insightful and practical step-by-step guide to help us disrupt the busyness doom loop and reclaim our time, deepen our connections and live with intention, instead of by accident.”
Busy Love is a book about reclaiming love in an age of constant doing
A note from the authors
“Imagine a world where love comes before busyness. You’re not going to get there by accident. In a world that won’t slow down, you need your own relationship system for being less busy and more in love. That’s the promise of Busy Love.”
Kaley & Nate
From the people who build operating systems for business
Great companies run on systems.
So can great relationships.
“Busy Love is a practical guide for couples who want to be more intentional about the most important partnership in their lives. Kaley and Nate Klemp understand that love alone is not always enough; couples also need structure, habits, communication strategies, and shared values. This book gives couples a clear system for creating more connection in a world that keeps pulling them apart.”
“I've spent decades helping entrepreneurs build the systems that scale great companies. But the most important operating system you'll ever build may be the one for your relationship. Busy Love gives couples a clear framework, a common language, and the regular habits to turn good intentions into lasting connection.”
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Epic Date Night
The science behind date night, how to prepare like a pro, ideas to spark creativity, and questions to ignite your conversation.
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Better Couple Questions
350+ questions designed to deepen your relationship, one card at a time. Take turns, save favorites, track your streak.
Download the app →The Busy Love Assessment
Find out where busyness is shaping your relationship, and where to start. 20 quick questions, about 5 minutes, results right away.
Take the assessment →
The authors
Kaley & Nate Klemp
Authors of the New York Times Editors' Choice selection The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Marriage.
Kaley Klemp
A leading expert on small-group dynamics and leadership development, a TEDx speaker, and the author of four other books, including the Amazon bestseller The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership. She received both her BA and MA from Stanford University.
kaleyklemp.com →Nate Klemp, PhD
A leading expert on mindfulness and relationships, former professor of political philosophy, co-founder of Life Cross Training, and coauthor of three other books, including the New York Times bestseller Start Here. BA and MA from Stanford; PhD from Princeton.
nateklemp.com →
Can't wait until 2027?
Read the book that started it all The 80/80 Marriage: shift from 50/50 to 80/80 →As seen on Good Morning America
Watch Kaley & Nate on GMA3
Kaley and Nate share must-know tips for balancing career, family, and love.
Watch the segment on ABC News →
Design
your love.
Busy Love arrives Valentine's Day 2027
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